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Spring Deep Cleaning Guide

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If you are anything like me, few events are more personally gratifying than my annual Spring Deep Cleaning! It’s an opportunity to throw open the windows, let fresh air in, and make our homes clean, safer, and more joyous spaces. For many people, however, the pleasure comes only after the work is finished. While your spring cleaning may never become effortless, you can make the project more manageable – and even enjoyable. So, let’s jump in!

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Here is my timeline leading up to Spring Cleaning and Allergy-Proofing my home each year.

Three weeks before cleaning, I request Thredup bags to donate unneeded clothing.

Two weeks before cleaning, I create my seasonal Capsule Wardrobe and utilize my Thredup collection bags.

A week before I start Spring Cleaning, I prepare my cleaners. A tip: to avoid hauling a caddie around my home during Spring Cleaning. Here’s my list of all-natural, diy cleaners I make:

The night before I start cleaning:

  •  I place the cleaners I will be using in the rooms they will be utilized the next day. Along with cleaners, I place any towels, rags, or sponges I will also be using.  I do this because as soon as I finish cleaning each room, the cleaners make their way back to my storage closet. When all the cleaners are put away I know my work is done!
  • Then I create a donation station. Three reusable bags are set up in my dining room. One to hold donation items to go to our local women’s shelter, a second bag for items at the thrift shop, and a miscellaneous bag for items that can go local animal shelter. To keep clutter to a minimum in our minimalist home, my husband takes all donations to charity the same day I clean. Also, I also pull in extra recycling bins too.
  • I also prep my clipboard. I use a clipboard to cross off completed tasks, take notes on the condition of my house, to remind myself of items I need to bring to my husband’s attention and to keep up to date with our seasonal inventory and shopping lists.

At this point, I’m ready to prepare myself to clean!

 

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Here are the steps I take to prepare myself to start cleaning:

  1. Scheduling. I try to schedule grooming appointments and play dates around my cleaning schedule. This frees up to time to devote fully to my endeavors and to keep little hands and little paws away from cleaners too!
  2. Getting Dressed. While Spring Cleaning, I dress for the occasion. For me, this means wearing all white. Cotton shorts and a tee. This outfit is conducive for cleaning, as I am sure to become soiled, splashed by cleaners, or sweaty while sprucing. This also prevents my clothing to become a visual distracting while cleaning room-to-room. You see, white is pure, clean light. It has clean energy. It allows you to focus on your space and not yourself while cleaning. In fact, Marie Kondo, famed decluttering consultant, wears only white while cleaning, consulting, or engaging at speaking events!
  3. Vacuum. I start with light vacuuming around my whole home before even gathering my cleaning supplies. I do this because I remove my socks and shoes while cleaning. I want to be aware of how my floors feel. If there are any splinters or squeaks that need addressing I can attend to them immediately. And if your floors are clean enough to walk barefoot on, then they are clean enough for little hands and paws, too!
  4. Music. I am known to put awesome music on for encouragement while Spring Cleaning. Sometimes I even create a playlist for the occasion.
  5. Light. I open windows, light a candle, and diffuse while cleaning. This is simply to keep me happy!
  6. Meals. I know I will be too tired to cook after cleaning so I generally prep crockpot meals before I start projects so I have hot, healthy meals ready for my family when the day’s work is done.

 

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Zone 1. My Food Stockpile and Basement

Pantry and Stockpile:

  • Canned goods: I dust cans, rotate by expiration date, and donate anything that will expire in your current month you don’t plan to consume.
  • Soft Drinks, Cooking Oils, and Cleaners: Again, I dust containers, rotate by expiration date, donate anything that will expire in your current month you don’t plan to consume, and place all oils in the fridge for summer, especially coconut oil.
  • Dried Foods: I inventory my stock and rotate jars accordingly.
  • Room: As my storage room is in my sunroom, I sweep the walls down, dust the room’s trim, clean the windows, clean the ceiling fan, clean my glass doors, and mop my way out of the room.

Basements:

  • Clean electronic air cleaner elements monthly for most efficient operation; replace filters as needed.
  • Clean humidifier elements before the next season begin.
  • Schedule furnace inspections; many areas offer free, or reduced fee inspections. Schedule appointments now!
  • Buy a 3-month supply of furnace filters.
  • Drain sediment from hot water heaters.
  • Clean windows.
  • Vacuum baseboards, floors, vents, and tools.
  • Re-evaluate your holiday, seasonal goods. Declutter, re-sort and purge as needed.

Zone 2. Inside the home:

I work from the farthest rooms in my home and work my way towards my front door. I start in my master bedroom, then onto my family bedrooms, guest room, den, living room, office, bathrooms, closets, kitchen, and end with my dining room. Here’s what I do in each area:

In my bedroom I attend to:

  • Turn mattresses front-to-back and end-to-end to equalize wear.
  • Launder or clean all bedding: mattress pads, pillows, duvets, blankets, comforters.
  • Change or scale-back linens as needed.
  • Vacuum drapes and window treatments.
  • Clean window sills and windows.
  • Vacuum baseboards and corners well.
  • Wash down walls with a mild astringent or cleaner, and dry with a dust mop.
  • Clean out and vacuum vents.
  • Vacuum upholstered furniture.
  • Wash interior windows.
  • I have my eyeglasses professionally cleaned in Spring.

Kitchen and Dining Room:

  • Prepare the kitchen for holiday cooking; organize kitchen cabinets, paying particular attention to baking supplies, pans, and equipment.
  • Clear kitchen counters of all appliances not used within the last week.
  • Pull refrigerator away from the wall, and vacuum the condenser coils.
  • Declutter your cabinets. Clear out your cupboards of anything that you don’t use on a regular basis. Make room in your dining room, basement, or stockpile area for seasonal items, such as punch bowls and holiday dishes. Purge, recycle, sell, or donate items that have not been used in a year.
  • Zone your cabinets. I have a zone for coffee, baking, and pets; keep like items together. Creating zones in your kitchen helps to keep your cabinets organized, helps you to know where to store things, and helps you work more efficiently in the day-to-day running of your home.
  • Random clutter. Anything random left over, and not able to be placed into cabinets, think of creative, upcycled ways to display and store these items.
  • Wash light-diffusing bowls from light fixtures.
  • Vacuum drapes and window treatments.
  • Clean window sills and windows.
  • Vacuum baseboards and corners well.
  • Wash down walls with a mild astringent or cleaner, and dry with a dust mop.
  • Clean out and vacuum vents.
  • Re-season pots and pans, as needed.

Coat Closets:

  • I steam clean coats, blazers, and jackets.
  • All winter gear is laundered and then stored in baskets in the top of the closet.
  • Add cedar and tea bags to all closets to prevent mildew and bugs over the Summer months.
  • I dust upper closet shelves.
  • I vacuum and steam mop closet floors. I then allow floors to dry for 1 hour before replacing items.

Linen Closets:

  • Bundle like sets of sheets together.
  • Keep necessity items in small baskets, labeled, and clustered on a single taller shelf together.
  • Corral cosmetics on servings trays for easy removal.
  • Any mismatched items should be donated.
  • Any fraying towels should be donated; animal shelters are a great place to send unneeded linens.
  • Prevent dust from covering linen sets, by placing them inside their coordinating pillowcases
  • Antique linens are best to hang; install two hooks and a dowel rod in the bottom of a closet for hanging linens.
  • Store throw pillows and guest pillows in a top shelf basket.
  • Store towel sets in stacks for easy removal.
  • Store like items on like shelves; linens with linens, towels with towels, and the like.

A few tips for Spring Cleaning your bathrooms:

  • All cosmetics older than one year, should be purged.
  • All cosmetic sharpeners, brushes, or curlers two-years or older, should be purged.
  • All hair coloring products or kits, two years or older, should be purged.
  • All vitamins or supplement older than one year, should be purged.
  • All flu, cold, sinus, or allergy products older than two years, should be purged.
  • All essential oils three years or older, should be purged.
  • All first aid items, older than three years, should be purged and replaced.
  • All digestive aids, older than three years, should be purged.
  • Any fiber-based supplement, older than a year, should be purged.
  • Any nail lacquers that have been to separate should be purged.
  • All manicure and pedicure supplies not utilized within the last six months should be purged.
  • All paper or cotton products should be visible, organized, and easily accessible.
  • Purge your oldest towel set; towel, hand towel, and wash cloth.
  • Take inventory and re-stock medicine cabinets.
  • Clean contact lense cases.
  • Replace toothbrushes and floss.
  • Clean window sills and windows.
  • Vacuum baseboards and corners well.
  • Wash down walls with a mild astringent or cleaner, and dry with a dust mop.
  • Clean out and vacuum vents.

Living Room and Den:

  • Vacuum drapes and window treatments.
  • Clean window sills and windows.
  • Vacuum baseboards and corners well.
  • Wash down walls with a mild astringent or cleaner, and dry with a dust mop.
  • Clean out and vacuum vents.
  • Vacuum upholstered furniture.

 

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Zone 3. Outside The House:

  • Clean and store patio furniture, umbrellas, kid’s summer toys.
  • Touch up paint on trim, railings and decks.
  • Check for breaks in exterior caulk lines around windows and doors.
  • Inspect external doors and garage doors.
  • Wash exterior windows.
  • Drain and store garden hoses.
  • Install insulating covers on exterior spigots.
  • Check gutters, rain barrels,  and downspout openings.
  • Have chimneys and flues inspected and cleaned, if necessary.

Zone 4. Greenery:

  • Bring flower pots out of storage; plastic pots will need to be cleaned, emptied, bleached, and air-dried.
  • Terracotta pots should be sun-sanitized, stacked, and stored on their sides.
  • Sew grass seeds, as needed.
  • Purchase bird seed, and keep feeders stocked for the winter.
  • Prep/service your lawn mower, riding mower, edger, and tiller for warm weather.
  • Pull back winter mulch, replace as needed.
  • Clean out flower beds, plant annuals as needed by May 15th each year.
  • Edge lawns and sidewalks.
  • Clean and disinfect your outdoor mailboxes.
  • Service outdoor fountains, solar panels, decorative installations.
  • Maintain your indoor and outdoor compost bins.

 

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Zone 5. Allergy-Proofing: Now that you’ve deep cleaned your home for Spring, I advise Allergy-proofing your home for Spring too! Here are a few of my favorite tips:

  • Clean blades of ceiling fans.
  • Sort and clean any extra zones such as linen closets, utility closets and office spaces; even the best kept linen closets trap dust, which can be inadvertently transferred to bedrooms and common areas.
  • Check for mold. Bathrooms, basements and areas that are tiled can be especially prone to mold. The key to reducing mold is moisture control. Be sure to use bathroom fans and clean up any standing water immediately. Scrub any visible mold from surfaces with detergent and water, and completely dry. You can also help ward off mold by keeping home humidity levels at or around  60 percent and cleaning gutters regularly helps too!
  • Check the fur-babies! Remove pet allergens by vacuuming frequently and washing upholstery, including your pet s bed.
  • Diffuse! Using a diffuser daily can not only help to make our home healthier, by allowing ourselves to breathe in health, natural elements, but we can also help to make out homes smell as inviting by diffusing essential citrus, cinnamon, sage as well.
  • When mowing and gardening, be sure to wear gloves and a N95 particulate pollen mask (Centers for Disease Control (CDC) NIOSH rated), and to avoid touching your eyes, and be sure to wash your hands, hair and clothing once you go back indoors.

Keep in mind, deep cleaning and allergy-proofing your home from top to bottom will essentially take several days. Do not attempt to clean your entire home in a day, or a weekend for that matter. Take a week, break off chores into chunks, utilize your family for aid and resource, and give yourself the grace of time and consideration of your everyday life when completing this expansive list. Also, you can  get a head start by changing your air filters every three months and using filters with a MERV rating of 11 or 12.

My biggest tip? Be sure to  vacuum regularly to get rid of dust mites. Use a cyclonic vacuum, which spins dust and dirt away from the floor, or a vacuum with a HEPA (high-efficiency particulate air) filter. And as always, be sure to wash bedding and stuffed animals weekly.

Moreover, consider this when devising a fall cleaning schedule:

  • Are you the kind of person who wants to do a little every day?
  • Would you rather tackle it all at once so that you don’t have to think about it for the rest of the week?
  •  Do you work full-time or are you home during the day?
  • Do you have young children at home whose chores can be incorporated into this system?

As there is no one “right way” to keep house, and so no universal cleaning schedule that will fit every household’s needs. Just sit down, take an hour, and create a system that will work best for you. Being prepared for the cooped-up winter months ahead is the long-term goals, so by adding a few small, obtainable cleaning goals a day is the way to go! This is a challenge to make your home as healthy as it is steadfast this coming season.

Also, don’t be daunted by the size of this list, many of the jobs are small ones that will go by quickly, and you’ll be so glad you took the time to do them! And if you are looking to see how I organize my year round cleaning schedule, you can also take a look at my general year-round printable list, too!

After you read through the zone lists, be sure to tailor the list to your home and yard. I encourage you to create a realistic Spring Cleaning schedule, keeping in mind that a single weekend won’t suffice, as you’ll need several days for more involved projects, such as shampooing carpets and organizing closets. Pick a plan. Create a stop and start point, whether it’s starting from the attic to the basement, outdoors to inside, or just focusing on one task at a time. Just have a plan. And be sure to enlist the help of family members.

So, folks do you have any tried and true methods for cleaning around your home this time of year. I’d love to hear about them below.

Why I became a Minimalist

A.A. Milne

 

I’ve tossed about a lot of topics to blog about this month and just kept coming back to one topic, minimalism

I often blog about home management and ways to maintain a more natural lifestyle. But what I haven’t discussed is why. And the reason I haven’t is that of fear of people’s opinions on my lifestyle. You see, I’m a minimalist. And the word minimalism has such a negative connotation to many Americans. Many believe being a minimalist means you are sacrificing things, simply giving away mementos of a hard-earned nature. That being a minimalist means you are not taking advantage of all that is available in the modern world today.

While that may be the perception of some, that may not always be the case. For when one takes the time to truly learn about what minimalism really is, they may find out it can not only help improve one’s life but help you save money and live a more natural lifestyle. Minimalism can lead to happier lives!

My personal journey into minimalism began a few years ago in the midst of personal crisis. My family was $78,000 in debt, I had just suffered my first miscarriage, my grandmother had recently passed away, and in the midst of it all, I was spending upwards of four hours a day cleaning my home. I suffered from panic attacks. I worked at a lackluster job. When home, I spent more time cleaning crumbs from counters than creating memories with my family. I yelled a lot. I shopped too much. I collected clutter. My home was a wreck. I lived in piles of unfolded laundry. I cooked processed foods. I was addicted to soda. I was overweight. My Shih-Tzu was overweight. I was unhappy. My life was a cluttered, chaotic mess.

When I looked around my home, from room to room, I started realizing just how severely clutter had become embedded into my life — my schedule, my mind, my body, my family, my pets, and even my home.

An example: I formerly owned four crock pots. I never cooked wholesome meals at home using those crock pots. I owned them because I thought I needed to possess these items to have a proper kitchen. Crock pots purchased on sale from my favorite money-saving sites, for any occasion that might pop up. I felt I was prepared, a proper newlywed and domestic goddess divine. The reality was the crock pots and the clutter that be owned me. And this clutter made me feel less than happy with my circumstances, less than happy with myself as a person.

I had built a home and a life with my husband, and through grace and gratitude wasn’t lacking resources. Quite the opposite, actually. I had all the building blocks of a great life. A handful of degrees, a home, cars, a closet bulging at the seems lots and lots of beautiful Pinterest-inspired things. Still, I felt a lack of focus I couldn’t quite explain. A general dissatisfaction that didn’t make sense, an inner noise that despite all I owned left a heaviness in my soul.

So, as usual, my husband came up with a great idea after months of nag-fests one after the next. He said, “If you’re not happy with the clutter, get rid of it.” Simple, right? My husband even brought home Marie Kondo’s famed, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing (I’ll be devoting more time to the Kon-Mari method later this month). So, with the Kon-Marist doctrine in-hand, I started to get rid of stuff.

We moved larger ticket items to one room. Listed and sold them. Used the proceeds to pay down debt. We sorted through clothing. Sent a ton of items off to Thredup. I still didn’t seem settled. We then sorted through books, papers, toys, gardening tools, anything that even resembled processed food, every inch of our 2,400 square foot home.  We listed over a hundred items on local Facebook groups, Craigslist, and Wallapop. We also made more than a dozen trips to charities all over the county. Still, I didn’t seem more put together.

I wasn’t settled until the day I walked into my near-empty living room and noticed that for the first time, the light that filters in from my shuttered windows. Now in an untamed space actually of my bare uninterrupted room, danced magically across our beautiful, dark floors. In that moment it hit me, that ah-ha moment I smiled. It clicked for me. When I live with less, I lived with more. 

By decluttering my home, I uncluttered my life. No longer was I plagued with the embarrassed of having friends and family over. I no longer resorted to boxed macaroni and cheese for dinners. We now have cleared tables and simple dishes. We ate wholesome foods.  I planted, blanched, sautéed, and canned what we ate myself. Minimalism helped me created more time in my life to be both a developed, modern woman who could work from home and a gal who could still ding at that pesky glass ceiling from time to time too. I know where everything is in my home and my office, and I can run them both like a boss.

Here are a few other reasons I decided to take the minimalist plunge:

1. Finances – Having begun living on a tighter budget out of necessity, minimalism gave me a way to counter rising unemployment, stagnant wages, and falling stock prices by rethinking my families overall purchasing power. We choose to make the distinctions between essential and non-essential purchases. We buy better items, less often, and are now completely guilt-free in doing so. 

2. Environmental Mindedness – Part of why my family chooses to live a minimalist life is out of sheer concern for the environment. We believe that less consumption equals caused the preservation of earth’s natural resources. We choose to say no to plastic products. We use mason jars are storage containers, to store cleaners, and to hold whole food purchases in-store like peanut butter, juice, and the like. Minimalism allows us to make a direct, active difference in our home, our community and our planet. We prefer to not idly sit on the sidelines, but be conscious of our surroundings and planet. 

3. Personal Debt – After years and years of living beyond our means, we were in trouble. $78,000 worth of student loans, assumed medical debt, and excessive credit card payments kind of debt. Truth be told, I don’t think it is hard to refinance a student loan so I probably should have tried that a long time ago. Minimalism, and in part by the trend-setting debt-free solutions of Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace program, we were able to get out from under the soul-crushing debt of yesteryear in just under five years. Minimalism teaches you that when you choose to buy less and save more, you regain the confidence in your personal finances. 

4. Social Awareness – Injustice, poverty, unequal educational opportunities, malnutrition, and apathy have always plagued mankind. But through minimalism our family finances have become freed enough to help make a small difference on a global scale by investing in individual self-started the world over through Kiva.org. Kiva allows individuals to donate small sums of money, which are turned into microloans to start small businesses in third world countries. Do you know what one hundred dollars can do to the loves of women and children in need? Plenty. And when you spend less time worrying about the self, you can devote time to help feed the hungry, provide clean drinking water to others, promote educational opportunities for others, and speaking up for the voiceless whenever it is needed. 

5. Beauty – Minimalism has allowed our home to become a showcase. Minimalism transforms my home into a museum of hope.  Our artwork, mementos, and keepsakes have become center stage in how our families story is presented to the world through every room in our home. Every piece, every frame, every memory is important and meticulously placed. This is a source of pride for me. 

6. Technology – Today, computers replace the need for DVD’s, paper files, photo albums, calendars, planners, calculators, phone books, and more. One way we implement minimalism in our lives is by digitizing. Everything from 45’s and 12″ vinyl, to movies, tax documents, manuals, and even holiday greeting cards. We receive digital subscriptions to magazines and our local newspaper (which cut our subscription rates in half). We pay our bills electronically. We opt for e-books on the OverDrive app from our public library. We replaced couponing with digital apps. We shop online for our monthly staple products from Amazon Subscribe and Save, including toilet paper. We electronically vote in country, state, and national elections. We donate to charities on the web. We can even tithe online via our parish’s website. Technology has enabled my personal journey into minimalism to expand farther than I could have ever imagined. 

7. Simplification – Minimalism gives me a sense of security. In an ever-changing, fast-paced world where the personal demand on one’s time, space, and sanity seem to be without end, minimalism gives our family a refuge of silence and peace. Minimalism gives our family quiet places, open green spaces, unspoiled views, open surfaces, and  experiences. Minimalism offers a life with less stress, less distraction, more freedom, more time, with less guilt and emotional baggage. 

8. Presence – While the minimalism lifestyle may seem sparse, stark, and lonely, this is far from the contrary. For minimalists are never alone. You see, there are many, many proponents of the minimalist lifestyle. And everyday they are making their presence more and more known to the world. There are awesome folks like Dave Bruno, Colin Wright, and Joshua Becker who offer daily insight, advice, encouragement, and inspiration for the minimalist lifestyle. I am able to glean from they’re victories and learn from their mistakes. They are like friends who are always their for you in spirit. They are my minimalist cheerleaders!

9. Lifestyle – Myself, like countless others, are choosing to make their living online. I work from a fully digital, remote home office thanks to Skype, Google Hangouts, e-faxing, Cloud drives, Google Docs. I can generate additional income by running both a blog and a website for my home studio. Did I also mention I have an ETSY shop too? I am freer to travel. I can work from anywhere. I can even engage with colleagues while walking my fur-babies. Technology, I am a changed woman!

10. Realization – Consumerism is alive and well. Advertisers tell us that our next purchase will bring us satisfaction, longevity, happiness, and joy. And people believe it. Minimalism has helped me to pull off the veneer of commercialism. To be a more thoughtful person. I now realize that there is a falsehood in debt. There is corruption in over-consumption. I know I will never find happiness through anything man-made. While money isn’t inherently evil, the love of money and things can be. I choose to seek happiness and fulfillment in other places: in my faith, my relationships, my social causes, and my own significance. 

This is why I personally chose minimalism. Why at the end of the day, minimalism doesn’t have to be about living in a tiny house with two t-shirts in your closet, sleeping on the floor. Minimalism is about paring down and focusing on what really matters. For once you’ve experienced the inherently awesome benefits of living with less clutter, you have no reason to go back

For me, this wasn’t as much about streamlining my physical possessions, as it was about minimizing my schedule, getting clear about my priorities, and being laser focused about what I want out of life. Becoming whole meant I could become a better wife to Daniel, a better mom to many, and a better person to myself.

Professionally, minimalism has manifested itself into my life can best be seen in the way I design my days. I no longer had to block off time to clean incidental messes, I could devote time to blog editorials, assignments for work, spending time nurturing my family, and a big one for me, living a more natural life. Minimalism helps me live with intention.

So, folks, this will be the tone for April here on the blog. I will be discussing in detail what we got rid of in our home, why we love the Kon’mari method ( including a Spark Joy and Kon’Mari Journal Review), how we stopped being stuffaholics, how you can start a minimalist life and my favorite minimalist resources, blog spring cleaning, social media spring cleaning, my Spring cleaning routine and my daily 1-hour cleaning schedule, natural cleaning tutorials, more on our less junk more journey philosophy, seasonal meal planning, and what I loved in April. 

I’ve said all this to say to you all: Minimalism brings me joy, and that’s a joy worth sharing with others. That’s all.

Here’s to living with less,

niki

Why I took a break from blogging

Why I took a break from blogging

It has been a while since I last posted something on this blog. Over three months to be exact. The truth is that I just needed a break. A long break.

There has been so much going on in my life. From expanding my local art business, to creating blocks of time to devote to writing my first book, to running couponing classes I was spent. This of course was added to the fact that these were my online activities, and my nine-to-five job. I felt I had absolutely no time left for this blog. 

In full disclosure, it has also been kind of great to have days spend without thinking about editorial calendars, following the constant montage of daily deals and steals, the hours spent anguishing over sending disappointing emails to people seeking to work on collaborative events. Mind you, I did enjoy not having to focus on the disappointments of sponsors that I was expecting to get – that I did not.

There are probably twenty reasons that I justified myself in taking a break for a while, and although I won’t share all twenty of them, I know it’s important to share a the main reason why.
 
The main reason I stopped blogging was my second trimester miscarriage. 
 
You see my pregnancy was not a well known fact. Aside from my in-laws and a select few friends and fellow bloggers, no one knew. This was my choice, my way of protecting myself until I knew I had a confirmed pregnancy. Even after I had a confirmed pregnancy my baby, my nesting, my decluttering became my secret happiness. 
 
And then one afternoon my world changed. I miscarried my child. 
 
Losing my baby though miscarriage has been one of the most difficult experiences that I have ever endured. There are no words to explain the depth of despair that I’ve felt, the shift that occurs when the hopes and expectations of a new life are gone.  It has been an experience that will never make sense to me.  
 
I know the facts. I know that approximately 15-20% of confirmed pregnancies in this country will end in miscarriage. Yet I was still hopeful. I know that some women who lose babies through miscarriage are able to move through this loss freely. I have not been able to do so. I have felt less than grounded, not ready to move forward. My mind has been cloudy. I have been unable to tell anyone how I feel.  Aside from my necessary work and family obligations, my life has been on hold. 
 
While most of these changes are purely emotional, there have been physical manifestations as well. After the initial pregnancy ending hemorrhaging, bleeding, one of the most disconcerting aspects of my pregnancy was the slow tapering of pre-miscarriage blood flow which caused my pulse to throb in my ears. It was the kind of noise that makes one feel like an aneurysm is imminent. I felt like I was dying, but in your heart you know it’s the first of many stages my postpartum body will endure.  
 
Never has that pit in your stomach analogy rang truer than literally having an empty belly. Of course engorged, painful breasts, two weeks of hormone-induced night sweats, bouts of acid reflux, back pain induced by a retroverted uterus, an infection, and three weeks of bleeding episodes, the kind where you don’t want to leave your home were excruciating. Worst still were my feelings. My emotions have been all over the place. Starting with denial, then anger, and as of late depression. And if the grief scale is true, I hope acceptance soon follows. 
 
For me, discussing mommy issues, homeschooling, crafting, meal planning, and the like seemed very lack-luster, totally lame. The world of blogging can sometimes be nothing short of a ticker tape of all things baby-related. I had hopes my blog would be the place I could blog about my babies first memories. I was afraid of the conversation and comments that would come as a result of this very post.  I can’t tell you how many times I read the infamous six-word 1920’s flash-fiction piece by Ernest Hemingway, “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.” It just seemed needed. It’s hard to believe it’s only been a little over a month since I miscarried. I miss my baby. Every day.

I can also tell you I’ve spent a lot of time in prayer, time in the word. Time filling the hole in my heart with the outpouring of love I’ve received from my husband and others. And I’ve tried to fill the emptiness in my gut with chocolate and mandarin oranges, a habit that will have to worked on at a later date. 

Miscarriages are horrible at any stage. But this was my miscarriage. I felt my baby move, and now I feel unsettled. Late last year I started to work towards periscoping daily, youtubing weekly, then put these goals on hold to focus on building my family, and now I frankly feel as I look like a giant, fat, empty slug, with little to share with others. 

This is not to say I haven’t tried to focus on the blessings I do have, my family, my husband, my home, my faith. These were just the notions are the thoughts that run through my head each night. This is just how I’ve felt. I’ve always called this blog my second child, and well, I feel I’ve failed in the mom department on that one as well. When my life fell apart, I lost my focus as a blogger. I lost my desire to work and document my life, and I hope this has helped explain why I needed time. 

grace

I believe in transparency on my blog and in life. After my miscarriage I was not comfortable with my vulnerability, and I couldn’t put my whole heart into the blog. I felt like I couldn’t keep up with everything. Namely social media, recipes, ideas, pictures, and more importantly life. I’ve screamed, cried, washed my face, and am ready to paint the barn of life again. 

So, what have I been up to? I’ve spent a lot of time focusing on downsizing my work schedule. I re-read Marie Kondo’s The Life-changing magic of tidying up. I gained eleven pounds. I bought a treadmill. I noticed a few gray hairs. I didn’t color my hair. I listened to Louis Armstrong. I watched a lot of HGTV’s Fixer Upper. I created a capsule wardrobe. I ditched half my makeup. And I slept. A lot. I just needed to step back, breath, look at everything from a different view. I needed to give myself grace. 

And while I’m making a laundry list of confessions, I’ve also decided to make some changes on this blog as well.

You see at the beginning of 2014, I made a halfhearted commitment to publish a blog posts and deals each and every day, sometimes in excess of ten deal posts a day. This was done to provide my readers up-to-date couponed deals.

The ante of life has re-directed my focus. 

While still a frugal-minded blogger, I want to stay more consistent with my niche as a frugal living blogger. Simply put, my heart is no longer focused on couponing and deals. In fact, I have not personally shopped with coupons in the past eight months. As a result, I will no longer be posting coupon deal posts via my blog. This is being done to keep the integrity and transparency of this blog in tact. I only want to show my readers how I actually shop. 

Before you ask, no my budget has not increased. I am still able to keep my monthly food budget for a family of three under $I60.00 each month. I do this by way of meal planning, shopping in reverse, price point lists, budgeting, online shopping, and digital app savings. No more, no less. I will no longer post weekend drugstore scenarios, coupon listings, and rebate forms. I will post monthly shopping haul, freezer cooking, meal plan posts, recipes, diy and upcycled posts. My reviewing will also be drastically reduced. While I will continue to blog about book, product, and subscription service boxes, the reviews I chose will only be for products that are truly my jam

I’ve also decided to start posting editorial pieces, Weight Loss Wednesday, and DIY posts each Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. Meal Plan Monday’s and Sunday’s weekly Happiness is Homemade Linky Party will remain as-is, leaving Friday and Saturday’s posting schedules open and used as needed. I just want to create more quality pieces on this blog. I don’t want to end up with an abandoned blog that damages my professional and personal credibility as a blogger. While three posts per week is an arbitrary number, I do think it’s a good amount of writing. 

Yesterday, I found a bunch of old posts I wrote for my first blog, The LadyPreferstoSave.  I loved the frankness of these early posts. This is also not the quality of posts on this blog as of late. In 2015 I wasn’t producing my best work, and I don’t like it. I can’t tell you how many posts this past year were thrown together from a last-second idea because I had to publish something. Most was awkward at best. I don’t want to publish just for the sake of posting, because I’m supposed to do so, because my Google calendar said so. I feel I can do better than this for me, and you.

My new plan is this: to write and publish blog posts with a focus on diy’ing, cooking, creating, meal planning, store hauls, gardening, capsule wardrobes, and upcycling.

I want to share my struggles and triumphs. I want to post my actual budgetary guidelines. I want to write about living simply. I want to write about thriving. That’s truly a passion of mine, my calling. Helping others learn by my former financial missteps. I want to put more effort and care into the things I publish. And to write because I have something worth saying.

So, today I’m switching to this new model. While in some aspects of my life I may still need distance and grace, my writing is not . Having some time off from writing has given me the time to regroup, to get excited about blogging again.

 I plan to blog about my raw blogging views. I’m just going to come back and do things the way that feels right. And I’m super excited about it. 

Here’s to us all,

mbnlogosm

 
 

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