How to Spot the Signs of Domestic Violence

Domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence, is a serious issue that affects millions of people each year. Being able to recognize the signs that someone may be in an abusive relationship is important so you can provide support and connect them to helpful resources. Here are some key signs to look for that may indicate domestic violence.

Changes in Behavior and Mood

Sudden changes in someone’s normal behaviors or mood can signal domestic abuse. Some examples include:

• Withdrawing from friends and family 
• Losing interest in activities they used to enjoy
• Appearing anxious, depressed, or suicidal
• Having trouble sleeping 
• Showing major changes in personality

Abuse takes a psychological toll and often leads to mental health issues like depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. Pay attention if someone acts out of character or displays emotional warning signs.

Signs of Control

Abusers aim to gain power and control over their victims. Tactics can include:

• Not allowing them to see friends or family
• Monitoring their activities, communication, and spending
• Making all the decisions in the relationship 
• Demanding obedience and limiting independence

Watch for signs that someone is isolated or their activities are controlled. Lack of freedom is a hallmark of domestic violence situations.

Unexplained Injuries

Physical abuse may result in unexplained injuries that the victim tries to cover up. Some examples are:

• Bruises, black eyes, cuts, broken bones
• Burns that could be from scalding, cigarettes, or other objects
• Bite marks or marks from choking or restraints
• Bald spots indicating hair was pulled out

Take note if injuries are explained away, attributed to clumsiness, or hidden with clothing. The locations, frequency, and severity can also indicate domestic abuse.

Damaged Property and Belongings

Abusers often take out their anger by damaging property. Signs can include:

• Holes in walls or broken fixtures from throwing objects
• Ripped clothing or belongings
• Damage to vehicles
• Broken cell phones or devices

When property damage is unexplained or written off as accidental, it may point to an abusive partner’s violent outbursts.

Fearfulness and Anxiety

Victims often exhibit a palpable fear of their partner. You may notice: 

• Flinching or jumping when touched unexpectedly 
• Appearing anxious when their partner calls or comes home
• Worrying about making their partner angry

Look for signs they are walking on eggshells around their partner’s moods and actions.

How Social Workers Can Help

As the linked article on the importance of social workers explains, social workers are critical in assisting domestic violence victims. They can connect people to shelters, counseling services, legal aid, and other community resources. Social workers provide emotional support and help victims process trauma through counseling and support groups. They can assist with safety planning, housing assistance, child services, and financial aid if someone needs to rebuild their life after leaving an abusive relationship. 

Social workers advocate for victims as they navigate complex systems and make decisions. Their training in mental health, trauma, family issues, and crisis intervention makes them well-equipped to comprehensively help domestic violence victims in creating a plan to escape abuse and heal.

Recognizing domestic violence is the first step to taking action. Don’t ignore red flags or explanations that don’t seem right. Speak up if you suspect someone is being abused. With support, many victims can get protection, counseling, and escape abuse.

Friends, if you or a loved one are experiencing domestic violence, please click here for help. Everyone deserves relationships free from domestic violence-you are no exception. When you’re ready, please seek help. Know you are seen. You are loved. You matter. You are worthy. If you’d like to share your story, please leave your thoughts in the comments below. Thank you.