34 Lessons Learned in 34 Years

 I’m turning 34 years old today.

While that doesn’t seem like it’s a landmark moment that I’m supposed to make a big deal about, as I still feel 29, it means something to me. Even though every romantic comedy about women in their late-20s tells me that it’s a life-changing ordeal to turn 30, I believe it’s your mid-30’s that brings about a greater change, and it’s 40 that actually sees a woman coming into her own. So for right now I’m still finding myself.

It’s not that I’m in denial over my age or freaking out about heading into the middle-aged zone. Quite the opposite. I’ve never been more comfortable, more content and more at peace with myself in my life as I am right now. I love my job. I love my friends. I’m dating a really hot nerd who just so happens to be my best friend and husband. I have two cats. I have three dogs. I have a family. I have everything I could want and more.

I used to think that being young was when your life was at its absolute best. I was very, very wrong. Life only starts getting good in your 30’s. 

Turns out, I was wrong about a lot of stuff up until now as well. And I will probably be wrong about stuff all the way up until I die peacefully in my bed surrounded by all my cats and holding a Jane Austen book in one hand and my husband’s hand in the other. So while I’m nowhere near my sweet spot as it were, there are still numerous things I have been able to garner in 34 years. So, in the spirit of hitting level 34 today, I’d like to share with you 34 things I’ve learned in 34 years:I’ve also come to accept aging. I mean, have you ever seen a woman who looks beautiful in her old age? Yeah, that’s because she earned her beauty and grace and that’s the kind of spirit and tenacity I’m striving for. I’ve also reevaluated how I perceive ago. I no longer think of aging as simply a number but rather as a level, like in a video game. You know somewhere between the tunnels of Super Mario Brothers but not quite to the sweet spot where you save the princess?If you too were made in the 80’s… then you will know what I mean!

So while I’m nowhere near my sweet spot as it were, there are still numerous things I have been able to garner in 34 years. So, in the spirit of hitting level 34 today, I’d like to share with you 34 things I’ve learned in 34 years:

  1. “Let go of what does not serve you” is a motto to live by.
  2. Judgment is an inner reflection.
  3. Your truest friends will be staples in your life. 
  4.  Be the good that you seek to see in the world.
  5. Marriage, like Mardi Gras, is a raucous ride and I am all the better for having bought a ticket! 
  6. Louis Armstrong is everything!
  7. Minimalism is life affirming. 
  8. Love your parents for who they are and not who you want them to be.
  9. Modest is hottest. 
  10. Learning to love your body will take you far in life.
  11. The only three investments worth going into debt for are an education, your health, and home. 
  12. Surround yourself with people who love you and want you to be happy.
  13. You’ll always be afraid of something, so you might as well get over it.
  14. Phenomenal business aren’t built on ideas and visions. They’re built on education and planning. 
  15. Passion makes the world go round.
  16. Love is hard to come by. Never judge the love that another holds.
  17. Don’t “what-if” yourself to death. 
  18. Guilt is a useless emotion. 
  19. Freedom trumps wealth.
  20. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have nice things. 
  21. Men and women think differently. Appreciate this difference.
  22. You should always listen twice as much as you speak. 
  23. Good manners trump great things.
  24. Be steadfast in your political beliefs.
  25. Never be ashamed of your thoughts.
  26. There really is no place like home.
  27. You don’t need to explain your actions to anyone online.
  28. Pets make people happier – it’s scientifically proven.
  29. Enjoy those moments where you just stand still.
  30. Never say those people for at one time or another we are all those people. 
  31. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Appreciate them both.
  32. Laughs twice as much as you cry.
  33. Apathy is never the answer.
  34. Enjoy your humanity.
  35. And one to grow on……the cheap runs expensive.

So, everyone, those are some of the favorite things I’ve learned in thirty-four years on this earth. I hope this post made you think, smile, and remember all of the things you’d like to tell yourself on your own birthday as well. Please leave me a comment below and let me know what you would most want to tell your younger self as well! 

 

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