Good morning, savvy savers! Today finds us with another great book reivew, and this time Daughters in Danger: Helping Our Girls Thrive in Today’s Culture, By Elayne Bennett. Elayne Bennett, author and businesswoman, who serves as the founder and director of the Best Friends Foundation and is an avid spokeswoman on issues of adolescent behavior and development. She was honored with the prestigious Jefferson Award for National Public Service and John Carroll Society Award, the William E. Simon Foundation Award for Social Entrepreneurship and the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Award. She is a member of the Ethics, Religion and Public Policy task force to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. For so many young girls and young women today, they are subjected to the external threats of living in an unapologetically, postmodern hyper-sexualized society, where mores and morals has become increasingly complex, corrupt and confusing . Many would argue that these conundrums all but stand to become more erroneously confused, which creates generations of girls who are lead into a false sense of self-sufficiency, rather than a drive for purer endeavors such as independence, stability, and inner fortitude, while eroding their intrinsic worth at every turn – and its snare all too often trap those who lack a solid foundation. Despite a plethora of laws, policies, and non-profit initiatives, ostensibly designed to protect them historically high numbers of girls suffer from anxiety, sexually transmitted diseases, eating disorders, cyber bullying, in-school harassment, drug abuse, alcoholism, and silencing dating violence. These are the issues I felt this book would be about. Then enters this book, and its author, Elayne Bennett, a woman who would have us believe that she enters the fray with a voice of approachable reality: “We can, we must, do better by our daughters.” However boldly Bennett offers the reader commonsense approaches to dealing with the above mentioned obstacles, most young women face, she does not give this same reader an empathetic approach to conversational understanding with our daughters. Bennett also emboldens the reader to face the ideas that family and friends, while simultaneously turns a blind eye to the same social issues previously mentioned, also act as insurmountable as the abuse our daughter face themselves.
Then there is a fork in the road, if you will.
The book becomes very politically-driven, and stands from a conservative standpoint. Parts of this book were not taken from an approach that I feel works best for rearing a child; I prefer empathy, compassion, and understanding to a more hard-nosed, traditional-family or hit-the-road standpoint. The author declares herself to be a feminist, but also declares feminists as the reason that women are victimized; a notion that is more nerve wracking, partial, and completely contradictory to the beginning messages of this book.
If you believe that teaching your daughters to strive to shatter the glass ceiling, that being both a housewife, or a member of the house of representatives is within her grasp, if you believe that time management, education, and a strong work ethic builds character, not blaming the media for your daughter’s life decisions, than this book may not be for you.
I believe in uplifting young women, giving them a hand-up, a word of encouragement, and a salute and acknowledgement for the struggles they face. I have worked with nonprofit groups, international mission efforts, domestic homeless, and have given various speeches for numerous aid groups, and this message, is frankly just not fact-based. Young women need more than a stable family to survive adolescence, they need a village of family, friends, educators, and the like to guide them towards the path of self-sufficiency, positive self-esteem, health, and longevity.
This book did not portray this for me, and was just not my cup of tea. Perhaps it will for you.
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